这里的to不是指跟在except后面的动词的。
而是have to的省略。
原句应该是这样的:You don't have to do anything except that you have to be with them and be yourself.
也就是说可以看成这句话把that you have省略了。
这个TO是和前面的have搭配的
也就是You don't have to do anything except (have) to。。。。have省略了···,前后一致。
没错啊